The truth is that this happens to most, if not all, moms. Nature wires our brains to care for our offspring and our husbands or families, and often we neglect ourselves. And we really don’t like being told that! But self-care is so very important. We may not believe it at first, but it’s actually a key component of being that great mom we want to be–because in order to do all those wonderful things we strive to do, we need to be well-rested, well-nourished, healthy, happy and calm.
So, this is an exercise that I do with many of my clients. I want you to imagine, what would your life be like, if you cared for yourself the way you care for your kids? Wow, imagine that! Stylishly dressed, not a hair out of place, full belly, great night’s sleep, time with friends, good exercise, playtime, and a little healthy discipline. Now tell me this, what would your kid’s lives be like if you cared for them the way you care for yourself? Yikes.
This January, consider a New Year’s Resolution for self-care because you really do matter! So, put yourself into the mix and find just a few simple ways to incorporate it back into your life. Whether it’s making a point of never skipping breakfast, or going to bed just 15 minutes earlier so that you have time to read books like you always used to. Small changes, can make a big impact. And the most surprising thing you’ll find is that, rather than having a negative impact on your family, like we always imagine, you will actually be giving them something of infinite value–a happier, more energetic, and contented Mom.
Here’s an interesting article about rediscovering yourself and one woman’s story about becoming a New Kind of Mom.